This is a book for Indian parents living outside India as well as their children who may or may not define themselves as Indian. It is about identity in a fast-changing world. Are we all global citizens? How alike are we? What makes us desis different from non-Indians? Will these differences narrow over time? It is about the Indian identity amongst people who do not live in India.
These and other issues are explored in the book. What makes my book different is that it is unapologetically Indian – by and for Indians. I have distilled what it means to be Indian and written about my parenting journey as it happened – the trips to India to initiate the children into history and culture, the many Hindi lessons and dance classes, shaping the attitude to marriage, the intense closeness of Indian parents with adult children and much more.
It does not purport to be the only way to bring up children abroad. But it was my way. And having produced two children who most people describe as “well brought up”, it is one possible way. That’s all.
Vinati Sukhdev has lived outside India for two decades. The years did not dim her love for her home country, and where she saw her children grapple with the identity issue; she was determined to instil in them a love for India and Indian values. Her many experiences over the last twenty years have resulted in this – a wonderful, much-needed book that is her tried and tested personal cocktail of persuasion and discipline, often with hilarious and unpredictable results.
“With handy summaries at the end of each chapter and a lucid narrative, Vinati Sukhdev’s book could be the new NRI parent’s bible!”- Times of India
“A lighthearted account of motherhood compounded with love for the motherland!”- Amazon Review
“The book deals with a range of NRI problems and explores how parents who were born Indian deal with their NRI children upon whom ‘Indianness’ is thrust.” – Sunday Midday
“The book opens an entire panorama of suggestions that those facing difficulties in the upbringing of their children abroad may find helpful.” – The Business Standard